{"id":92,"date":"2013-05-06T23:18:23","date_gmt":"2013-05-07T03:18:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/?p=92"},"modified":"2026-07-20T13:24:29","modified_gmt":"2026-07-20T17:24:29","slug":"how-to-escape-from-a-rut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/?p=92","title":{"rendered":"How to escape from a rut"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i><\/p>\n<p>Dear Literopathy,<\/p>\n<p>I feel like I have no direction, like I&rsquo;m running as fast as I can to stay in one place. As if my life is over at the age of 25 and nothing of interest will or can happen or change. I want my life to be exciting and meaningful profound like the books I read, and I feel like I&rsquo;m perpetually waiting. How do I begin?<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Julia<\/p>\n<p><\/i><\/p>\n<p>Dear Julia,<\/p>\n<p>A number of books spring to mind. Particularly, you&rsquo;ve made me think of Lewis Carroll\\&#8217;s <i>Through The Looking Glass<\/i>, when you say that you&rsquo;re &ldquo;running as fast as I can to stay in one place&rdquo;. There are many titles that seem to echo your particular circumstances, with a positive ending&mdash;Douglas Coupland&rsquo;s <i>jPod<\/i> and Rob Payne&rsquo;s <i>Working Class Zero<\/i> (which, I believe, would also satisfy our CanCon quotas)&mdash;but ultimately the champion goes to Lois McMaster Bujold&rsquo;s <i>The Warrior&rsquo;s Apprentice<\/i>.<\/p>\n<p>This book introduces Miles Vorkosigan (and her Vorkosigan saga), in truly spectacular fashion: Miles, only son of the only son of the Count Vorkosigan, washes out of his planet&rsquo;s military academy during a final physical trial by <em>breaking both his already-fragile legs<\/em> in the first eight pages.<\/p>\n<p>Suddenly, Miles&rsquo; future appears to have collapsed along with his shins. His militaristic society will certainly never accept his becoming Count without any military service, particularly in consideration of his pedigree&mdash;his father is known as the greatest leader ever to serve in their military. It appears that he&rsquo;ll inevitably destroy his family&rsquo;s good name when he becomes Count, primarily because his people won&rsquo;t respect him.<\/p>\n<p>Miles doesn&rsquo;t take this defeat sitting down, however. Though it seems he&rsquo;ll never serve in his world&rsquo;s space fleet, he takes up smuggling, and promptly bluffs his way into owning an entire mercenary fleet with thousands of devoted, loyal soldiers. Miles has something of a talent for bravado, and it makes his mouth both his greatest asset and his greatest liability. While discussing your case, one of our staff described Miles by saying, &ldquo;Half the time Bujold has to knock him unconscious to get him to stay still long enough for her to finish the book.&rdquo; Even Miles knows this:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cI\\&#8217;ve got forward momentum. There&rsquo;s no virtue in it. It&rsquo;s just a balancing act. I don&rsquo;t dare stop.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Miles builds up a lot of momentum for himself, largely through an over-developed confidence in his ability to improvise. And this is what many of us, in our day-to-day lives, feel like we lack. We find ourselves stuck in a particular role that we&rsquo;ve probably assigned to ourselves&mdash;when I&rsquo;m not reading, or being a dad, I&rsquo;m a computer programmer, and for many reasons, that sometimes feels like what I&rsquo;m destined to be forever.<\/p>\n<p>When Miles is suddenly thrust out of what he perceives to be his trajectory, he creates his own&mdash;but that creates a whole new trajectory that even he doesn&rsquo;t see coming. Miles doesn&rsquo;t know what&rsquo;s going to happen, but he makes snap decisions, with only minimal apparent regard for consequences, because he&rsquo;s confident he&rsquo;ll be able to get himself out of it.<\/p>\n<p>We recommend <i>The Warrior&rsquo;s Apprentice<\/i> because it becomes a vivid demonstration of what a person can do when they&rsquo;re thrust out of their comfort zone. In Miles&rsquo; case, outside forces pushed him at first, but there&rsquo;s certainly nothing to say that we can&rsquo;t push ourselves. Try something you&rsquo;ve never done&mdash;audition for a play, volunteer with a group that does something you agree with&mdash;and see where it takes you, and what you like. Life rarely gets interesting when you want to, and sometimes we have to make it interesting ourselves.<\/p>\n<p><img src=\\\"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/the_warriors_apprentice_cover.jpg\\\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Fellow readers, have you ever felt stuck in a rut? What helped you out?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Literopathy, I feel like I have no direction, like I&rsquo;m running as fast as I can to stay in one place. As if my life is over at the age of 25 and nothing of interest will or can happen or change. I want my life to be exciting and meaningful profound like the [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[39,17,41,40,6],"class_list":["post-92","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-rx","tag-lois-mcmaster-bujold","tag-reading","tag-science-fiction","tag-the-warriors-apprentice","tag-unabashed-book-love"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=92"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=92"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=92"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.literopathy.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=92"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}